Five ways to scare men away
A number of women have asked me about whether specific behavior would scare men away or not. Being lazy, I figured that rather than answering their questions individually, I’d compile a list of the things most likely to drive men away. Read more
Why do men give mixed signals?
January 29, 2009 by Thomas
Filed under Your Questions
Here’s an interesting question I received from a reader, whose long-term boyfriend broke up with her without giving any clear signals beforehand:
I have a quick question:
I was going out with a guy for 2 years. He broke up with me last August-almost 2 years to the day that we started going out. He said his feelings changed and he wasn’t sure about us anymore. However a month or so previous to this he had spoken about moving in together. We hadn’t been fighting and as far as i thought everything was going great.
My question is why do men give mixed signals? When he says he isn’t sure or 100% about us anymore is that code for he just fell outta love with me and i can expect that it’s over for good?
I know most of the time men are pretty black and white about things so any advice would be appreciated!
The answer is simpler than you might think. When men give mixed signals, it’s usually because they have conflicting feelings.
In your case, it’s a possibility that he simply fell out of love. While painful, it happens in many relationships, and it’s probably better to find out now, instead of after a few years of living together. However, what I think is far more likely is that what really changed were his thoughts about the future, rather than his feelings about you.
You mentioned that he brought up the subject of moving in together just a month before breaking up with you. To me, that strongly suggests his reason for breaking up was a sudden fear of commitment, rather than a change in his feelings about you. By considering moving in together, he forced himself to take a look at the relationship, and question whether you’re the person he wanted to spend the rest of his life with.
Chances are that he didn’t exactly fall out of love with you. Instead, he decided that he wasn’t ready for serious commitment yet, and even though he enjoyed being with you, he wanted to know what else was out there. It’s not unlikely that he’s already regretting his decision or will regret it in the future.
Still, don’t wait for him to come back. Putting your life on hold for him does not make it any more likely that you’ll get back together, and will definitely make this an even harder time for you than it already is.
Top 10 male fantasies
Although I already covered the topic of male fantasies in a previous post, I received several requests for a more comprehensive list. So, always happy to oblige, I scoured the Internet for research on the matter and aliened a few friends with inappropriate questions. Below are the results. Read more
Why men laugh at farts
A surprising number of women have asked me why men laugh at farts. Although I never really thought about it before, I have to admit, men do tend to find bodily functions funnier than most women seem to do. So what’s the reason? Read more
Why does he look at ugly women in porn?
January 19, 2009 by Thomas
Filed under Your Questions
An anonymous reader apparently spent some time snooping through her husband’s computer, and was dismayed to find porn. And not just any porn, but porn featuring unattractive women. So she sent us an email asking us to please explain it to her. And that’s exactly what we’ll do.
What we’re thinking about
January 15, 2009 by Thomas
Filed under Relationships
Most men will recognize this situation. You’re staring blankly in the distance, just enjoying doing nothing at all, and suddenly your wife or girlfriend asks “What are you thinking about, honey?” The answer is always the same: nothing. If you’re lucky, she’ll leave it at that. If you’re unlucky, she’ll get annoyed because you must be hiding something or else you would tell her.
What not to to wear
To most men, it’s a mystery why so many women spend incredible amounts of time and money shopping for clothes. We understand the desire to look good, but we don’t see why it should be taken to the point of obsession. Still, there are a number of things we like seeing, as well as some things most of us hate.
When to say no
Timing is everything in dating. Even more so when it comes to sex. And most of all when it comes to deciding you would rather wait a bit longer before getting into bed with a guy.
Why you should stop worrying about your body
January 11, 2009 by Thomas
Filed under Relationships
Let’s face it: most women are insecure about their bodies. We know, because you keep telling us. Over and over again. To some extent, we sympathize with you. Read more
Why this site?
You might wonder why a guy would compile a huge things of things he thinks women should know about men. The answer is quite simple. Read more