Any woman who thinks that her man would not WANT to embrace a majority of these points is a fool. It would lead me to believe that she has had many short relationships or the men she dates are borderline gay.

The reality is this…The list above may be how a guy thinks. This list may be a man’s ideal in a testosterone ruled utopia. The fact of the matter is, they set aside some of this for our sake. Not because they like it, but for the sake of peace. Men are men. Men do not have a feminine side, at least they shouldn’t and we shouldn’t expect them to.

My husband and I have a wonderful relationship. I think it is because I figured most of this out early on. I don’t expect him to read my mind. I appreciate the fact that he keeps a card in his wallet with my clothing sizes, the perfume I wear and a list of things I have said that I would like for my birthday or Christmas.(smart man) I have even gone so far as to email him links to things I like. I recognize he wants facts and really can not relate if I argue based on emotion. I also know he is never going to tell me something makes me look fat, especially is we are getting ready to go somewhere. The last thing he wants to do is wait for me to find something else to wear.

Just because he wants time alone, likes hanging out with his friends, thinks about sex at least once every 10 minutes or enjoys a blowjob does not make him less of a family man. To suggest otherwise is just plain foolish.

Alright…I am going to step down off my soap box. I will wrap this up with this…Women, if you are smart, you will read this and recognize that even though your man may say this list does not describe him…he wishes it could be him.

Could you maybe add a top ten turn ons/good things to do in bed in the sex category? My opinion is that the best thing a woman can do during sex is be enthusiastic…is this correct?

Please don’t include me in the statement “Emotional instability is thinking “yes, we’d like to stick it in your butt’… (and offensive to all women who read this I might add, because you are addressing women in general here)”

I’m a woman, and I don’t find that at all offensive. I find your generalisation that no woman could possibly enjoy it and the implication that if she does she isn’t normal, offensive.

And as for…

“Once we’ve told you we love you, we more or less expect that you’ll remember it. That’s why we don’t repeat it every few hours.”

Do you not get the humour in that statement?? Would you SERIOUSLY want a boyfriend to tell you that they loved you every few hours?? Don’t you see that if they did it would become totally meaningless????

I couldn’t be bothered to read through the rest of your rants, but I find your generalisations more offensive to women than this list.

There are no “Rules”. That’s the great thing about freedom of choice – if you want to spend a first date crying about how awful your last boyfriend was, you are entirely free to do so.

This list merely informs you that most men won’t ask you on a second date if that happens. You don’t have to accept it, you don’t have to like it, and you don’t have to go out with men who more or less agree with this list.

If you agree with “Love” and want an emotionally open man who never masturbates, incessantly tells you he loves you, would never have sex without being truly in love, and sees crying on the first date as cute and quirky, this list certainly isn’t intended to prevent you from going out and trying to find one.

The list is just telling you that it will be a long, hard search…

I also agree that if you like someone, you find things attractive that might repel you on someone you don’t like as much. It’s the difference between quirky and cute, and just plain weird.

It’s funny, I followed a link to this page because someone said it was a much better guide to relationships than ‘The Rules’ – to me it seems just as narrow and one-dimensional.