Lack of eye contact

Eye contact is the main staple of flirting. Even if a man is shy and doesn’t easily ask women out, he will still look at you if he’s interested. So if a man doesn’t even seem to notice your existence most of the time, it’s a pretty good indication that he’s not interested.

Breaking off conversations early

When a man is interested in you, he’ll usually take advantage of every possibility he can get to spend some time with you. So if he breaks off every casual conversation after a minute or two, it’s a sure sign that he has other things on his mind.

Not calling back

You’ve already gone on a date with him, and you still have to call/text/email him first whenever you want to talk with him? He’s not interested. While some guys might not make the first move even when they’re interested, once you’re in contact with each other  he will take initiative at least sometimes if he has any feelings for you at all.

He’s busy

Of course, everyone is busy sometimes. But if a man just happens to be busy whenever you want to spend time with him, you can be sure that the actual reason isn’t his schedule. Because no matter how busy he is, if he’s interested in you he will make time for you regularly.

I’m not sure if I’m ready for…

If he starts talking about how he wants to take things slowly, or how he isn’t ready for a serious relationship yet, that’s code for “sorry, but you’re not the one”. At that point, pursuing him any more will only drive him further away.

I have a quick question:
I was going out with a guy for 2 years. He broke up with me last August-almost 2 years to the day that we started going out. He said his feelings changed and he wasn’t sure about us anymore. However a month or so previous to this he had spoken about moving in together. We hadn’t been fighting and as far as i thought everything was going great.
My question is why do men give mixed signals? When he says he isn’t sure or 100% about us anymore is that code for he just fell outta love with me and i can expect that it’s over for good?
I know most of the time men are pretty black and white about things so any advice would be appreciated!

The answer is simpler than you might think. When men give mixed signals, it’s usually because they have conflicting feelings.

In your case, it’s a possibility that he simply fell out of love. While painful, it happens in many relationships, and it’s probably better to find out now, instead of after a few years of living together. However, what I think is far more likely is that what really changed were his thoughts about the future, rather than his feelings about you.

You mentioned that he brought up the subject of moving in together just a month before breaking up with you. To me, that strongly suggests his reason for breaking up was a sudden fear of commitment, rather than a change in his feelings about you. By considering moving in together, he forced himself to take a look at the relationship, and question whether you’re the person he wanted to spend the rest of his life with.

Chances are that he didn’t exactly fall out of love with you. Instead, he decided that he wasn’t ready for serious commitment yet, and even though he enjoyed being with you, he wanted to know what else was out there. It’s not unlikely that he’s already regretting his decision or will regret it in the future.

Still, don’t wait for him to come back. Putting your life on hold for him does not make it any more likely that you’ll get back together, and will definitely make this an even harder time for you than it already is.