Any woman who thinks that her man would not WANT to embrace a majority of these points is a fool. It would lead me to believe that she has had many short relationships or the men she dates are borderline gay.

The reality is this…The list above may be how a guy thinks. This list may be a man’s ideal in a testosterone ruled utopia. The fact of the matter is, they set aside some of this for our sake. Not because they like it, but for the sake of peace. Men are men. Men do not have a feminine side, at least they shouldn’t and we shouldn’t expect them to.

My husband and I have a wonderful relationship. I think it is because I figured most of this out early on. I don’t expect him to read my mind. I appreciate the fact that he keeps a card in his wallet with my clothing sizes, the perfume I wear and a list of things I have said that I would like for my birthday or Christmas.(smart man) I have even gone so far as to email him links to things I like. I recognize he wants facts and really can not relate if I argue based on emotion. I also know he is never going to tell me something makes me look fat, especially is we are getting ready to go somewhere. The last thing he wants to do is wait for me to find something else to wear.

Just because he wants time alone, likes hanging out with his friends, thinks about sex at least once every 10 minutes or enjoys a blowjob does not make him less of a family man. To suggest otherwise is just plain foolish.

Alright…I am going to step down off my soap box. I will wrap this up with this…Women, if you are smart, you will read this and recognize that even though your man may say this list does not describe him…he wishes it could be him.

Please don’t include me in the statement “Emotional instability is thinking “yes, we’d like to stick it in your butt’… (and offensive to all women who read this I might add, because you are addressing women in general here)”

I’m a woman, and I don’t find that at all offensive. I find your generalisation that no woman could possibly enjoy it and the implication that if she does she isn’t normal, offensive.

And as for…

“Once we’ve told you we love you, we more or less expect that you’ll remember it. That’s why we don’t repeat it every few hours.”

Do you not get the humour in that statement?? Would you SERIOUSLY want a boyfriend to tell you that they loved you every few hours?? Don’t you see that if they did it would become totally meaningless????

I couldn’t be bothered to read through the rest of your rants, but I find your generalisations more offensive to women than this list.

There are no “Rules”. That’s the great thing about freedom of choice – if you want to spend a first date crying about how awful your last boyfriend was, you are entirely free to do so.

This list merely informs you that most men won’t ask you on a second date if that happens. You don’t have to accept it, you don’t have to like it, and you don’t have to go out with men who more or less agree with this list.

If you agree with “Love” and want an emotionally open man who never masturbates, incessantly tells you he loves you, would never have sex without being truly in love, and sees crying on the first date as cute and quirky, this list certainly isn’t intended to prevent you from going out and trying to find one.

The list is just telling you that it will be a long, hard search…

I also agree that if you like someone, you find things attractive that might repel you on someone you don’t like as much. It’s the difference between quirky and cute, and just plain weird.

It’s funny, I followed a link to this page because someone said it was a much better guide to relationships than ‘The Rules’ – to me it seems just as narrow and one-dimensional.

By the way, this:

“Once we’ve told you we love you, we more or less expect that you’ll remember it. That’s why we don’t repeat it every few hours.”

Is one of the most patronizing statements I’ve ever read and it shows exactly what you think of women and it also shows that you haven’t got a clue what love means.

Thank you for your good luck wishes though.

Crying at a funeral is normal. Crying while shopping for groceries is not. Crying when someone breaks up with you is normal. Crying when you take a slice of pizza is not. Crying when Bambi’s mother dies is normal. Crying when having dinner with someone you’ve never met before is not.

Are you getting the picture here?

And obviously, what’s being referred to is not crying because you cut some onions.

But anyway… good luck.

Since when is crying a sign of emotional instability? Emotional instability is thinking “yes, we’d like to stick it in your butt’… (and offensive to all women who read this I might add, because you are addressing women in general here) AND very young AND very naive, emotional instability is to talk to your friends about your sex life in ‘exaggerated detail’, emotional instability is being afraid of expressing one’s feelings. Why do you confuse ’sensitivity’ with ‘emotional instability’ ?

Love may come later in a relationship (although definitely not always), but when you like someone, you like someone. When you don’t, you don’t. Something that would put you off a person you don’t like might seem very attractive on someone you do like. You want to be in control of what you like and what you don’t like. Don’t you realize that you are not?

There is absolutely no point in trying to ‘behave’ in a certain way, according to a rule book or a list, you cannot be someone else, you can only be the person you are. And I suppose everyone wants someone to like us the way we are and not the way we try to act because a list or a rule book says so.

Not talking about the fact that the motive for one’s tears doesn’t seem to be important to you at all, in assessing if a person is emotionally unstable or not. I might peel an onion on my first date, for God’s sake, who knows, I might want to cook for you and save you the money to take me out to a restaurant, would I be emotionally unstable if I cried? Oh…I see, no, I’d be a ‘nutter’ then, for thinking that I may want to cook for you on our first date. So .. WHAT? I may be a ‘nutter’ but then I am looking for someone who likes me as I am, why would I want to try to be someone else?

Love isn’t something that’s instantly there. True love develops as you get to know the other person, not the moment you meet them. Because however romantic love at first sight might seem, in the end it is superficial because you don’t actually know the person in question yet.

So yes, it does matter what you do on the first date. Opening up too much to a person you’ve just met, for example by crying or telling far too much about yourself, simply is not a good way to start a relationship. It’s a clear sign of emotional instability.

Also, masturbation is perfectly normal, even if someone is in a happy, loving relationship. To quote Sue Johanson: “99 percent of men of all ages masturbate regularly and the other one percent are liars.”

Being comfortable with your sexuality is a good thing, regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman. Masturbation is healthy sexual behavior. It allows you to explore your body and get to know it better, which will improve your sex life with your partner.

You might think you’re a romantic, but honestly, you’re not. You’re just very misguided…

Your list may be valid if you DON’T like a woman and if you’re not in love with her. When you do, nothing is valid anymore, because love takes over, man or woman.

Some of the things you listed there have nothing to do with being a man, they are valid for both sexes, and some are valid just in – excuse me – sick minds!

You make it UGLY, very ugly, sex should be an expression of love, as it happens, we are human beings, not animals, why do you have to make it ugly and speak in the name of men?

What you are doing here is actually taking women for granted and thinking women are idiots! A man who loves a woman and is loved by her, will never ever ever ever masturbate until he dies.

What you’re actually doing is trying to make women think this is the truth and they HAVE to understand poor immature men and do what men like ….

It’s pathetic.

And I can assure you that you WILL ask a woman you like on a second date, even if she cries on her first one! If you don’t, you don’t like her, whether she cried or not!

I can’t believe the manipulating rubbish that’s on this list.

This list will attract the ‘right’ women…good luck to all men out there who happily endorse this list! You will have everything you want, but never love!